I entered into a Christian Covenant from the Manual I purchased from this site in 2010.  I was supposedly friends with this man for 18 years and he had been pursuing me a long time.  Somehow I got this notion that perhaps this was what God was bringing into my life after years of being alone and trying to focus only on Him.  I had been a battered and bruised woman for so many years and this person was so aware of my past.  We reviewed the book, discussed things, and it turned out that he had NOT been at all truthful regarding his financial obligations and some things he had not resolved from many, many years ago.  After the paperwork had all been taken care of, it seems that one little thing after another would come out that was definitely not in line with a healthy marriage and I began to notice a pattern of lying, justifying, dodging, blame transference and lip service.  Being a woman ordained in Ministry in 1999, I was so disheartened but so tried to be solution oriented.  It also became very apparent that this man never gave up alcohol and was drinking excessively when not in my presence.  Then it became a preoccupation with him.  He went to great lengths to destroy my reputation and credibility telling people I was bi-polar and he leaves when I have an episode so that I can “calm down” ~ this has been soooo incredibly hurtful on top of the very unbalanced demands to meet all of his needs and obligations and I became extremely isolated and had no access to money, job or anything.  Shortly after the marriage covenant, he began to be very demanding of my time, energy and financial resources I brought in became quickly exhausted and I was left with nothing.  It would also unfold that he never paid his first wife the monies due in their divorce.  She was a godly woman, sober, raising his children while he was out carousing with other women, drinking like a maniac, etc.  ~ they were divorced in 1991.  In 1997 she moved to Arkansas.  It was in 97 that the real estate deal was done.  I uncovered the truth that he manipulated her all these years and has not given her what is rightfully hers.  She absolutely worked herself to the bone with the kids and all that it takes to maintain this house.  I would also find there to be incredible debt against the house.  He locked me in like a prisoner and left in April and said he would return in a week and didn’t come back but stayed at his father’s lake house all summer collecting his pension and working under the table while I was scraping for food and what few things I could manage on a very low paycheck that would no longer be in September.  He then went to Court recently and had an Order to Show Cause where the judge granted him his complaint to have me removed from the house.  The Covenant isn’t legally recognized marriage in New Jersey.  The Contract wasn’t presented.  I just came across it.  I had sent a letter to postpone enclosed in the packet for motion to dismiss.  that wasn’t made a part of the record and the proceeding went on without me.  So the Judge thinks I just didn’t show up.  Today I got the order that I have to vacate by February 1.  I have NO MONEY, NO JOB, car due for inspection, needs back brakes, there’s an awful situation with the valve seal and the whole house is furnished with my things that I brought to the house.  It was virtually empty of furniture.  The man drinks like a fish and pretends to be a man of God and uses Scripture to manipulate me.  I feel so lost and alone and I have been on my face before God asking what and why?? I have been so brutally under spiritual assault with no reprieve for several years.  I keep pressing in, but I feel like I am on a treadmill.  I can’t seem to find my way out of the pit.  Will anyone be willing to pray?? there is such self centeredness at work. Male privilege and dominance.  Yet he whines about “losing me” ~ when he cares only about his booze and has kept his past women girlfriends in the loop for whenever he needs a bail out.  I am crushed.  I am 48 he is 62.  I feel so overpowered.  I am a sober individual. committed to being a disciple.  I need help.